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Contrary to what you might expect, he doesn’t reward himself or commiserate with food, and doesn’t want me to either.He’s helped me nip my wallowing in the bud, offering positive suggestions like walking, yoga, and meditation.

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I do, however, try to get him to expand his meat and potatoes palate, and because he loves to cook, he’s open to it.

Whereas I can’t get enough of leafy green vegetables, he’s much more picky.

In fact, he’s the one who looks at labels more closely than I do.

We do buy organic meat, and have each cut back on foods we found we simply couldn’t resist (his was ice cream, mine was cheese).

I thought I’d dealt with most of my body image issues before I started dating my current boyfriend. My boyfriend weighs over 300 pounds, and one of the things I appreciated right away is that he didn’t hesitate to call himself “fat.” Why would he? That alone was startling to me, having dated my share of men and women who were far from accepting of their bodies.

But during the three years we’ve been together, he’s taught me a lot about size, fatness and self-care. I’d like to say I’ve always shared this level of both candor and comfort with my curves, but that’s not true.

My boyfriend doesn’t “care” about my weight in the sense of wanting me to be a certain size, but he does want me to be healthy.

If I suddenly gained 20 pounds in a month for no apparent reason, he would ask me about it, but not in a menacing, shaming way.

Dating my boyfriend hasn’t magically made me okay with my weight’s fluctuations, but what his presence has done it make me feel beautiful in his eyes no matter what, and look at why I might be gaining weight. When I get bad news, I want to soothe myself with salt.

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